My brother calls it reality. He is a high wage earner, more educated than his wife, more likeable, and struggles to please her. At our last family get together at my mother’s house, he and my stepfather did the dishes after dinner, while “the girls” made small talk. The guys also assisted my mother in making dinner. At one point, my sister in law commented that someone we know is “just a paycheck” to his family. She followed up with, “nothing wrong with that”, with much laughter from her, my mom, and my sister. UM….fuck that. I’m the only guy who will butt heads with the women in my family over their pop culture bullshit perception of men. That probably explains why I’m also frequently a target of “the girls”. If you have to surrender your dignity to keep the peace, there should be no peace. Men who incessantly try to appease the women in their lives are fools. Ever notice how they get less respect as a rule than the “asshole” type? Ask me how I know.